April 2020

Week Four

Yosemite, before.

Mateo is studying the universe in his high school science class, and I realize our confinement is like a neutron star: everything in our lives has collapsed down to a tiny core, compressed and dense.

Tim is our designated public person. Masked and gloved, he leaves the house once a week to dash to the grocery store to buy food and essentials. He and I venture out twice a day to walk Charlie, maintaining our distance from our neighbors, who stay safely six feet away.

So far, the kids are content to stay home. They have phones and FaceTime and are not complaining. This morning I asked Olivia what her friends are up to, and she said, “What can anyone be up to? Absolutely nothing.” They spend hours discussing this nothingness, and that’s good, I think. Better to stay connected, however it happens.

This week started Spring Break. Just when we had settled into a schedule, kind of, we were thrown into no schedule at all. Tim and I continue to walk Charlie, of course, and Tim is able to work remotely.

But the kids and I are looking at five unstructured days ahead, seven if you count the weekend. I’ve decided I’ll go with whatever happens, a resolution that is completely, 100% unlike me. Usually, I’m the one leading the charge–to the educational experience, the art museum or historical site, to Universal Studios or Yosemite. In between, I’d encourage the kids to pick up a book to read—(ha!)– or use their free time to improve their Spanish.

I can’t do that now. We’re stuck where we are. We must go with the flow and deal with it.

Since we can’t go anywhere, I’m posting photos of a trip the kids and I took to Yosemite in early February, with our dear friends, Susan and Marisol. O, glorious Yosemite! The jewel of California! Thank you to John Muir and President Theodore Roosevelt, the visionaries who preserved this magnificent site, and to all who ensure its survival.

Upside # 1: Hours pass although I’m not sure how. To get alone time, I’ve been weeding the garden in the afternoon. Bonus points: My mind wanders freely and the yard looks great.

Upside #2: Tim is home, so for the first time ever, we’re sitting down together to eat dinner every night as a family. A gift and a blessing.

Stay safe, everyone. xoxo

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Week 3

We’re at week 3 of sheltering in place. Like most people, we’re not used to so much isolation coupled with non-stop togetherness. There’s no escape.

On Sunday, I told the kids what they already knew: that this situation would continue until summer, and they wouldn’t return to school until fall.

Then I said that for us to make it through—that is, for me, specifically, to make it through—we needed to make a change: namely, we needed to implement a reduction in the snark factor, pronto.

The snark factor, I realize, is “normal teenage behavior,” which, under normal circumstances, I can take. But not now.

Yesterday, a teacher of one of my kids posted guidelines about an upcoming Zoom classroom meet-up.  A few highlights:

  1. Please get dressed… or at least a little dressed.
  2. If you’re working from your room; please do not be in your bed.  Or, if you must be in your bed, please sit up.
  3. Please do not eat during our meetings.
  4. Please do not play games on your phone.
  5. Your pet may listen in.

Upside # 1: On our walk with Charlie this morning, we saw yellow irises, a sidewalk rainbow made with chalk, and sculptural purple flowers. The jasmine had bloomed and it smelled sweet.

Upside # 2: Mateo said, “You can’t just put a ‘Pause’ button on corona and make it go away.” A life lesson, that, and hard earned. Will someone please tell those people running around, out and about, as though nothing has changed?

Stay safe, everyone. xox

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